In high school, I had a serious boyfriend for three years. It was a very emotionally abusive and a very unhealthy relationship for me.
Some dreams are a bit steamy, but most of them are like clips from an unlived life. We’re doing daily tasks in our home, spending time with his family, going out with friends.
My own interpretation is that you might feel guilty for staying in such an unhealthy relationship for so long. Rewriting the old script (exploring the “unlived life”) might be your mind’s way of trying to prompt an attitude of acceptance and forgiveness toward your younger self. I hope you follow this prompt.
The fact that you are having these dreams every night without resolution is cause for concern. A psychologist could help you to turn the corner and dream differently.
Right before my surgery, my wife left — which in itself was hard but she abandoned all four of her children, too. Three of them were my stepchildren (they were biologically hers).
The two years since she left have been extremely difficult because three of our four children stayed with me and the fourth moved in with their biological father. My surgery went very well. It took a long time, but I can walk again.
从你的叙述，似乎你的前的应受谴责的行为已经成为你定义体验。但事实并非如此。你现在正在做的 - 度过这一难关坚定不移地养育 - 这是你定义！
You have to show your kids that life does go on, and that you – and they – have some control over what happens next. I hope you will build a legacy of positive and hopeful experiences that become the defining next chapters. Build your friendships with other adults. Other successful single parents (fathers and mothers) will help to show you the way.
You might also explore the possibility of legally adopting your stepchildren, so that they will always know that you belong together. Changing your legal status from stepdad to “Dad,” might help all of you to move on together as a family.
亲爱的AMY：“在威斯康星州人防”表示a coronavirus-related concern, and in your answer, you advised her to “wipe” shared handles with disinfectant.
Amy, these disinfectant wipes may not be as useful as you think in containing the virus.
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